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Friends Shouldn't Date Your Exes

Is there a rule for your close friends dating your exes,  YES.  I always liked the idea of if the boy made you cry, it was super serious, you thought they were your soul mate, your ex is YOUR ex.  Meaning your friends should respect your relationship past or present and know they are off limits.  I know this sounds insane to some and totally normal to others.  Some people are just off limits.  If there was something happening that was written in the stars or something I think the friend (about to betray the other) should inform them of their feelings for that persons ex.  Therefore, saying, your feelings matter, you're important to me, I don't want to hurt you, but my feelings are real.  However because most people are cowards and hate confrontation and like many annoying plots in movies when everyone lies and is self serving trying to "protect" their friends from the truth...it just ruins everything.

I get having feelings for someone you shouldn't. Been there. But there's a huge difference in doing something about it and liking someone that your close friend truly loved and still holds dear.  What happened to loyalty and friendship when people cared about each other.  Did this ever exist?  Where people thought about their actions and who'd they hurt instead of always going after to what feels good?  Humans have rational thought, it's was makes us different than any other animal...so why do we ignore this gift and choose to be selfish?

I'm just saying.  I don't care how much gleam is in a guy's eyes, or how he makes me feel.  If one of my friend's exes was flirting with me or liked me or vice versa, I would abort the situation and never ever be alone with that person.  I would never ever go after any of my friends exes because I know they dated them for a reason and they have no reason to be dating/sleeping with me because I know it would hurt our friendship.

I also am a person who does not date or dally around with lovers. My exes are very few which is why this situation is so close to home that out of all the people in the world someone would date him it would ruin me.  I wish it didn't matter but it does.  The idea of this makes trust seem very difficult if no one around seems to do the right thing.  Am I being over sensitive? Am I?  Imagine your first love?  Now imagine them dating your best friend...or your old roommate...or your brother or sister...this situation affects your family group and your friend group.  I'm just saying. I think some boundaries can't be crossed and I for one know the hurt I would feel.  And in preventing anyone else from feeling that sort of pain I would never date/hook-up with my friends exes.
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