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Monday, January 26, 2015

No, You Are Not Crazy, You're Just a Highly Sensitive Person

If you experience the world the way I do, then you are easily overstimulated.  Hunger makes you Hangry, sirens make you cringe and other people’s problems, become your problems.  You can read a room, its mood and feel “fight or flight” right away based on your reading.  Sometimes you need to turn off completely.  Literally shut yourself away under the covers to regroup, turn down the noise and start again.  Sometimes the pain of others, literally causes you pain, headaches or tears.  When someone asks you to go out after a day or work, you rarely say yes, because you need to go home and decompress and disappear before you can think about another thing.  A lot of missed opportunities, a lot of anxiousness, a lot of sadness. 


You may be a part of a small part of the population that experiences the world in a very unique way.  You may be a HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON or HSP and that’s okay.  While sometimes this uniqueness causes you to feel like you don’t belong or that something is wrong with you, it’s actually a gift.  Once you recognize this gift, you can enable yourself to truly use your sensitivity to your benefit rather than as the detriment it probably has become.

My life without medication is one sensation after another, constant reactions about every little detail of life.  It became so overwhelming to me, myself, that I found a therapist and talked out all about my fears of the world.  I was depressed for some time and now I am not.  But it is still a daily struggle to understanding myself and how I relate to the world as someone who can pick up on the littlest of feelings, details and intuitions. 

I am what they call self-aware but it is a hypersensitivity to that awareness and my concept of self and how I interact with others that bears heavily on me.  I am constantly dissecting, ruminating, worrying, towards a more perfectness.  I could not turn off these thoughts or feelings, even though I did get to talk about them openly once a week.  It still didn’t make me a healthy person.  In this way, I am an advocate for medication if it cannot be done alone with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and working hard to re-train the brain.  I was in Therapy for 2 years before I spoke to a Psychologist about my anxieties and fears of the world.  Medication has helped me see the world in a more relaxed and healthy way.  I still use my work, my hard training of my mind to overcome some days, but my meds make life livable for me.

For me, being a Highly Sensitive Person, each day was a million onslaughts of emotions and perceptions and thoughts that I could not turn off or put aside.  It ruled me and made me want to not be around people for the fear of all the feelings.  Now I can walk more peacefully without intense fear and emotion about every single detail around me.  I can turn down the thoughts, the pain and the worries of others.

Does any of this sound like you?  Are you likely to avoid situations because they are too loud, too overwhelming or too much?  Do you retreat into yourself when you “just can’t even?” I know the feeling and you are not alone.  I am very much an extrovert.  So being highly sensitive isn't necessarily a shy or introverted quality.  It is just how some of us have managed to handle the world around us.  I am still learning about myself and plan to write much more on the subject. 

Reading the books below is helping me not to be angry with myself for having these qualities, rather be thankful that I experience I colorful chaotic world, that I am working to navigate.  There's so much to see and feel, I just need to slow down and smell the roses.  I also need to not internalize other people's problems.  They aren't mine to solve.  I feel so deeply for the people in my life that I have a hard time learning of their worries and pains and not making them personal and real for me as well.  This causes a lot of sadness and pain and I must learn to use my empathetic tendencies in a healthier way.  Being sad for others, does not make that other person NOT SAD.  But not being sad for them, doesn't mean I don't care.  I can understand and be there, but I must learn to let go of the pains in my heart for those who weep.  I also have noticed that a way to soothe myself in this chaotic world has taken shape in my bouts with Trichotillomania which I have blogged about before.  It makes sense to need to soothe when handling my environments seems so hard.  By understanding that I am an HSP, I feel like I am not alone, I am not crazy, I am aware.  And now I can spend less time punishing myself for feeling so out of place and for knowing that I see the world on an intense and deep level. 

I am currently reading 
The Highly Sensitive Person
by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.

Click picture -> Amazon

I am also reading

Self-Care for the Self-Aware: 
A Guide for Highly Sensitive People, 
Empaths, Intuitives, and Healers 
by Dave Markowitz

Click Picture -> Amazon

Both of these books are helping me to understand my gifts and to not to hold on to the anxieties that harm my body.  I am learning to let go of the control I wish to have over my environments and to be able to breathe freely and calmly.  I am also working hard to not let my empathy for others rule my emotions or my health.  2015 is the year where I take care of me.  

Feel free to email me with questions!  

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Things That Will Make My 2015 AMAZING!

Stuff is just stuff.  If I didn't have any, I would still be happy.  
BUT some stuff can be super cool awesome and amazing and make life fun.  Some are things, some are lifestyle choices and some are just cuz.

So taking me into 2015 smoothly, satisfyingly and stylish are these amazing STUFFS that I am so happy about.  Share in the joy with me!

My Roommate's VerturoLine Nespresso Machine

If you love amazing frothy espresso and coffee, 
this is your new best friend!
My favorite coffee flavor is: Melozio
My Favorite Espresso Flavor is: Voltesso
I don't even need to add milk or sugar, 
its amazing just the way it is! MMMMM


Trying new recipes with clean ingredients like this

Tomato, Mozzarella, and Basil Quinoa Salad

I plan to work on my fitness and my wellness. I don't want to feel like it's a punishment. Wellness can only be achieved when you take pride in treating your inside and outside with respect and love.  I aim to eat less processed foods and sugars. I want to get better at making salads and different types of meals.  


This guide is amazing!  I has a diet guide and daily circuit workouts.  I have been trying the workouts and have seen results.  I also like that it doesn't seem toooo hard but is still a challenge.  
To get the guide you can purchase from the link below
The 28 DAY JUMPSTART includes
* Easy-to-make recipes
* Tons of substitution options
* Grocery lists for each week
* Meal prep schedules
* Flat tummy eating
* Vegan, vegetarian & gluten-free friendly

* Beginner-friendly
* No gym required
* No equipment required
* Full body toning
* Burn more calories throughout the day

The Instagram feed offers new workouts all the time and it totally convinced me to get the 28 Day Jumpstart.  
It's pretty awesome.  Good Luck!

      HAPPY 2015! 
Monday, January 5, 2015

Happy Holidays!!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from ALEXINHWOOD!

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Cat Lover's Tee - Designed by Alexinhwood - Pre-Order Campaign

I have partnered with Represent and the Stray Cat Alliance 
to raise some funds to donate to help create a No Kill Nation!

I have been wanting to volunteer and donate to help out kitties for a very long time but wasn't sure how to go about it.  In this way, I turn to my community to get together and make a bigger contribution by working together!

I love my kitties at home as they were also Los Angeles rescues.  I thought that if all the cat lovers out there got together and pre-ordered this cute Tee, we could all do something special and use 25% of the funds to donate to the Stray Cat Alliance.

Represent, where my campaign lives has excellent service, creates quality apparel and is working with me to create the best campaign yet!  

Whether you are a cat lover or not, I bet you know someone that would love this cozy tee, but will also appreciate that we are giving back and helping to provide food, shelter and much more to the stray cats of this nation, not just Los Angeles.  

Let's do this TOGETHER!

1. Go to the campaign:

2. Pre-order a tee!

3. Share with family and friends on social!


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Thursday, December 11, 2014

My Dream Holiday Dresses: Urban Outfitters

If I had all the money in the world, I would want to wear all these dresses for the holidays!
These, make my Alexinhwood Approved List

Urban Outfitters


Urban Renewal Remade Square Paillette Dress

Ecote Beaded Mini Dress

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Always on Alert: Women and the War on Cat Calling and Harassment

Why do men cat-call out to women?  Do they think there is a reward in it for them?  That we may blush and feel complimented?  Do they think we walk around and wear clothes just for them?  Do they think we care?  What's in it for them?  I have no idea.  I never feel good after being cat called.  NEVER.  I don't feel complimented.  I feel objectified.  I feel like when I'm just being myself walking down the street that suddenly I'm a sexual object to be taken over.  Like my existence is to be gawked at and won.  None of these things make me feel good.

I went to a dive bar to watch football.  I wore a Jersey and shorts and a pair of Toms.  I thought I looked nice but definitely didn't feel like it was at all suggestive.  I know there's beer and booze and drunk men and that certain interactions happen at a bar.  But this was not a typical day.
A few dudes walked by me as I entered the bar:

"Yeah, GO CHARGERS!"  (ok fine, im wearing a jersey, woo)
"Hey Chargers Jersey!" (hi, wassup) 

Later I left the bar, sober and needed to walk 3 blocks to reach my car and this is what happened as a homeless man harrassed me and followed me to my car. 

"Hey there, short shorts 
(he expects me to turn around) 
Damn looking good. Chargers, eh
(I keep walking)
Where you going CHARGERS JERSEY 
(I keep walking, faster)
Oh so you aren't gonna say Thank You? 
(keep walking as he follows me, I sense he is getting angry, am I in danger?)
Where you going?  Come here, pretty thang.
(I walk ever faster and trip.  He laughs) 
You okay honey?  
(I was sober, he continues to laugh and follow me.  I consider running to my car for the last block but decide against it)
You're probably drunk.  You aint gonna say anything? 
He laughs maniacally 
(He just wouldn't stop.  I get into my car and I feel incredibly abused and glad I am in my car with doors locked.  If he thought I was truly inebriated than would he have tried to attack me?)  

Didn't matter who it was, I refused to acknowledge him.  Didn't matter if he was black or white, homeless or not, drunk or sober.  My fear was that if I turned around and engaged him in any way, he would feel accepted and pursue a conversation.  I just wanted to leave and to get into my vehicle.

We never had eye contact.  I never saw him.  I only felt his eyes on me, his voice following me, his steps coming closer.  

I tried to walk faster.  I felt a little scared that my ignoring him would make him angrier or cause him to follow me longer.  But I chose silence.  My skin was crawling.  If I was rude or yelled back, that would probably just encourage him further or I would be called a bitch, which I didn't feel like going through.  Men don't have to worry about these things.  Walking in fear for 3 blocks to their car, being followed and objectified.  Fear of retaliation, fear of being accosted, in every parking lot or public place.  Men walk around freely without that fear.  A million thoughts ran through my head.  I imagined terrible outcomes.  I imagined running.  I imagined getting attacked.  I felt real fear and for good reason.  I imagined calling 911.  I felt unsafe and vulnerable.

All I did was walk to my vehicle.  And I was harassed. It's been two days and I still feel gross about it.  I walk around in Beverly Hills and I never get yelled at.  I like that.  I like being around people but being in my own protected bubble at the same time.  Maybe that's hard to do in metropolitan areas like NYC or places where you take the subway.  Maybe I am just not used to it, but should I be?  Is this something women must endure?  I wanted to share this experience.  I am curious to know how often this happens and if it happens only when you are alone.  Or if it's also when you are with your children, friends or boyfriends.  Why do these men make us feel like we owe them something?
We don't owe you our smiles or Thank Yous. 
 Leave us alone. 
Thursday, October 23, 2014

THE MOST POPULAR GIRLS IN SCHOOL Launches Indiegogo Campaign to Produce Season 4

Everyone join in on the "Brittnay Matthews Revenge Campaign!"  If you are like me and love foul mouthed dolls portraying awful bitchy High School Girls, then you will love this show and their Indiegogo Campaign.  Right now there is a sweet referral contest that allows for one SUPER FAN to win a video from their favorite MPGIS character made just for them!

Perks include T-shirts, Downloads, Stickers, DVD's and much more to come!  You can even contribute to get your name said on the show!

Visit MPGIS INDIEGOGO CAMPAIGN to get the schpeal and help to make SEASON 4 happen for all of us, for the world, do a good deed.


Need to catch up and join the craze? Here's the YouTube Channel that started it all!  BYYYEEEEEE!!!!